Permission to Have Her Hand Please

Future Mom and Dad please give me your Blessing

Even the most confident of men can be reduced to trembling in their boots at the thought of having to ask their partner’s parents for permission to marry their daughter. It is after all, a question that is going to change the course of your life, and that of your partner and their family. While traditions have changed over time, it is still a sign of respect to ask the father of your future bride for his blessing. Especially if the parents are quite old-fashioned in their thinking, this step is important in the proposal process. However, if the parents are more modern thinkers, avoiding the word permission might make it easier. Rather go for something like blessing, which takes away any sexist aspect that could be picked up by the parents. A problem may arise if your partner isn’t particularly close with her parents, but by the time you are ready to propose, you should know whether your partner is comfortable with you approaching the parents or not. As for parents that live far away, don’t be lazy and make a quick phone call. It will be a much better gesture to take some time to visit them and ask them in person, showing your dedication to your partner and your future life together.

When actually asking the parents, it is important to consider what and how to phrase your words. Be prepared for many questions, as it is simply in a parent’s nature to be concerned for their child and to want the best for them. If you cannot answer every detailed question, instead of making something up, be honest and tell the truth. Parents have a knack of seeing when a partner or friend is lying, and they will probably pick up on your insincerity. Being honest will put you in their good books and allow them to trust you. Bear in mind, they are probably not questioning you in a negative or interrogative manner, but simply out of love for their child. Always remain respectful and use this time to bond with them. They are going to be your future parents-in-law, so this is vital. When the scary part is over, then comes the fun. Tell the parents about your plans and even show them the ring, if you have it with you. Now all you have to be nervous about is the actual proposal, but if you are truly in love, then this will be nothing but a beautiful event that will go down in your life’s history.